“Be you, not what you want others to think of you.” ~ Ryan Biddulph
I just saw a naked child walking around on the street in Pondicherry, India. It gets hot here. Why where clothes?
Me. Flexing. Being RB. Myself.
I thought about how many people are terrified to be naked, not in the physical sense, but in the mental sense. How many people are terrified to be themselves. To let their true self out. To express their feelings fully.
You read the post about my puppy Raja. He died the other night after we cared for him for a few days. I was distraught. I cried, and cried, and cried, and dry-heaved. I was disgusted. I shared this in my post too, because:
- I let go who I was for who I was becoming
- I lost a large part of my fear of being what other people wanted me to be
- I was no longer afraid to be criticized or laughed at for expressing my feelings, after loving a living being so unconditionally then watching him die before me
- I let go some of my self conscious stuff because I was so focused on the little guy
It was a sad but triumphant day. I freed myself on many levels. I loved. I was me. I was NOT what I wanted other people to think of me.
I was not trying to be, I just was. Invigorating feelings, really, because this whole personal development thing is about releasing versus acquiring.
I got to thinking about Raja, and the little boy. Raja was here to teach me to express my true feelings. To deal with my demons, so I could be me, and not what the demons dictated. This was a test; dealing with putting my heart out there, opening up, and dealing with heartbreak, and heartache, and transmuting the feelings into love for all. My true self
I thought about the little boy. He cared not. We are almost all like the little boy. We can run around with our little junk parts flopping around as kids and not care a bit. Nobody taught us to be ashamed of our bodies at this point.
The select few who hold onto this fear-less approach either live in nudist colonies or become the most happy, successful people on earth because they are themselves and could care less about trying to be what others want them to be. They passed the test.
….might want you to be someone. But you might feel differently. Honor you. Your parents do not have to live your life. You do.
Your Friends or Brothers or Sisters….
….might want you to be someone you care not be be. No worries. Ignore them. You live your life, they do not.
….will try to shape you too. Ignore society. Be you. March to the beat of your own drum. Be true to you. Whatever YOU want to do, do it, and as long as you are not hurting anybody this is none of your business.
Nobody on either side of Kelli or my family is particularly elated about us traveling the world. My mom has been diagnosed with Alzheimer’s and Kelli’s family would much prefer her to stay state-side. This is because they love us. We understand this.
We also understand that being anything other than being true to you, and being you, and doing what God put you here to do, is your purpose in life and no matter what anybody says you gotta be you and live with it. This is personal development. Dealing with the truth in any situation.
Gorgeous beach shot from Playa Potrero, Costa Rica. Being yourself does have its perks.
Otherwise you will be miserable. You will always wonder….
Kelli and I vowed to never be those people. We have struggled through tough situations in our domestic lives, financial lives and personal lives. Parents have died or been diagnosed with presently-terminal illnesses, we have encountered severe resistant from our families at one time or another and things have been tough to deal with on the road.
But we do what we are here to do.
We are not entirely clear on what we do – enlightened souls are, the rest of us are working to maintain that clarity – but Kelli and I are not afraid to be ourselves. We are us. We love being us, and we love all of our imperfections too, though not at all times.
Just be you. And if you need inspiration, look toward me. You can do it. I did.
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Former fired security guard and current world traveler, Ryan Biddulph went from having a net worth of 4 cents to generating steady cash flow online while living in tropical paradises like Bali, Phuket and Hoi An.
Add trips to: Costa Rica, Peru, Sri Lanka, Malaysia, Laos, Cambodia and Myanmar and you have the makings of a serious travel junkie. Sometimes he stops by his home state in NJ too. Ryan enjoys working out, meditating, taming tigers, feeding wild monkeys and helping you generate cash online
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