I saw you on Jim Rohn’s Fan Page. Your comment was awesome.
What do you do?”
I usually respond with:
“Hi (Insert Automon Name)”
I travel the world. I do some online stuff too.
What do you most enjoy doing?”
I do not know you. If I want to make money – and if you want to make money – we have to develop a relationship first. OK, fine. But what signal do you send off if you ask what the person does? Really? I mean, what do I do? Breathe, most of the day. The point is this: this approach is uber boring because I have seen it 4,354,543 times during my online and offline career. At a party people ask me what I do. Through Facebook messages people ask me what I do. Boring.
Make Money: Check out My Approach
I ALWAYS respond with something like, what do you most enjoy doing, or what makes you come alive. I do not give a shit if you are a representative for a fitness company….I want to know something really interesting, like if you have lived in Bali, like me. I want to hear neat, intriguing stuff. Do you jump out of airplanes? Awesome. Do you read 4 books a week? Awesome. I want to know what you do outside of business to better get to know you as a person.
The Human Factor
We make money based on how human we appear to be to other people. Example; my success grew the moment I stopped posting business-related stuff all day long and started posting kick butt, inspiring travel pictures. People do not want to work. People do not want to know what I do.
People want to know what happens after I do my doing. Like, people want to know what I most enjoy doing, what goals I have reached, because at the end of the day we work jobs or run businesses to provide a service but ultimately, we are working for the freedom on the other side of the fence.
I love blogging to death but I am not living and breathing to type words on a keyword. I am living and breathing to live in Bali, and Fiji, and Phuket.
I live to travel, to be free, and to help other people live the internet lifestyle. That is why I never ask people what they do, because I do not care what they do…..I care about what makes them feel alive. I care about how they spend their time with their family, or where they took their last vacation, because this is where I can find if I have an awesome match.
The Lame Game Approach
If you are using this lame approach stop it. Your success is predicated on your ability to stand out from the crowd. Like .00001 percent of people will actually care about what you do, or will partner with you based on divulging this boring information. Ask people what they most enjoy doing.
Some will lie and tell you their job, and honest to goodness, even if you love your job, you would rather be living on Fiji, or traveling through Central America with you family, or doing what makes you feel alive, over anything else.
Use this approach to find more people w- ho mirror your passions. I can connect with awesome folks and we can further each other’s careers by connecting on a human, non-professional, “what do you do outside of work” level. This is easy to see. Ask people what makes ‘em sing. Open a whole new door through which you can travel into their heart.
Do you use this approach? Or do you look for something more interesting to chat about? How can you better connect with new Facebook buddies? What approaches do you use on your first introduction?
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Former fired security guard and current world traveler, Ryan Biddulph lives the internet lifestyle in tropical hot spots like Bali, Phuket, Koh Lanta and Hoi An.
Add trips to: Costa Rica, Peru, Sri Lanka, Malaysia, Laos, Cambodia, Nepal, India and Myanmar, and you have the makings of a serious travel junkie.Ryan enjoys working out, meditating, taming tigers, feeding wild monkeys and helping you live internet lifestyle
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